January 4th, 2015
Here at Country Outfitter, we get a lot of questions about a lot of things. Some things aren’t for most people’s eyes or ears. And some things need to be brought to the attention of a medical professional, but mostly, we just get real questions from real people about real problems.
That’s where Elsie comes in. She’s lived a lot of life and seen a lot of things.
You’ve got questions. She’s likely to have an answer. Or at least an honest opinion.
My boyfriend insists on wearing button-down shirts almost everywhere we go. To “keep things casual,” he tends to unbutton the top three (sometimes four!) buttons. Casual or not, I think that’s too many buttons. So, how many buttons unbuttoned is too many?
I may need some clarification. If he’s trying to remain dressy, does he not unbutton the third button? If we’re on the same page here, I can answer pretty emphatically. Casual or not, three buttons unbuttoned is fairly offensive. You know? Just seems like a lot.
If he wants to “keep things casual” he should try to wear something without buttons. I am guessing he’ll steer himself towards a deep v-neck t-shirt, but you should urge him to stay away from those. Unless he’s a professional male dancer! If he’s a male dancer, he’s allowed to unbutton three buttons and wear v-necks. Those are just the rules!
Have you considered buying him some shirts that are actually casual? Check these out!
Is there such thing as ‘girl code’?
Speaking strictly as a girl, I’m going to say: yes, there is such thing as ‘girl code’.
I think the basis for ‘girl code’ starts with just straight up respecting other girls. If you don’t respect your girls, no one else will. It’s time to put an end to girl-on-girl hate! Girls need to unite! After that, I would consider the following ‘girl code’ as well:
- If you borrow clothes, return them clean. Maybe even dry cleaned.
- If your friend is throwing a party, be the first to arrive and the last to leave. Help set up and help clean up. Sometimes, you don’t have to help set up, but you still gotta be there early. Offer to bring something no less than three times. Even then, don’t show up empty-handed.
- Don’t date your friend’s ex-boyfriend. Sure, at a certain age and when a certain amount of time has lapsed and after at least, 3-dozen conversations, you can date the ex, but only if said friend has moved on and it’s not weird.
- If your friend posts a photo on Instagram, you must like it within the day that it’s posted. Yes, even if it’s of a baby or a plate of food. Rules are rules.
- If you’re going to an event and you’re meeting a friend there and her ex-boyfriend, old boss, high school rival or someone as equally terrible is there, you must warn your friend before her arrival.
- Don’t ever, ever, ever let your friend get a haircut immediately following a traumatic event like a breakup. Especially a breakup.
- Be there for the big stuff, no matter how big of a hassle it is for you to get there. And when you get there, start the dance party and don’t show up empty-handed.
- If it’s been “one of those days” for your friend, join her in whatever form of stress-relief she chooses to partake in. If you don’t, the end result could be a terrible haircut or a bad online purchase or something equally as damaging.
- Don’t be passive aggressive. If your feelings are hurt, go ahead and express that. Do this verbally and not via text message or e-mail.
- Be honest about another’s wardrobe, BUT… be gentle and try to save the honesty for when you’re actually asked your thoughts. Unless it’s just a full-on disaster, then speak up!
- If it looks like your friend is having a meltdown on social media, go ahead and alert others, then contact the friend immediately. If necessary, delete statuses and take her phone away.
There are obviously many more rules, written and unwritten, to consider, but mostly: act like a normal human, don’t be a hater and show up when you’re supposed to show up. Oh. And don’t ever forget someone else’s birthday.
It’s almost Thanksgiving and I’m going to spend the Friday after Thanksgiving with my boyfriend’s family. I haven’t spent much time with them and I want to make a good, long-lasting impression. Should I bring food? What should I wear? Do I have to participate in Black Friday shopping? I just don’t know.
How fun! First off, no, I don’t think you should bring food. Unless, your boyf’s family is celebrating the holiday a day late. If that’s the case, prepare a fun, easy side dish like homemade mac and cheese or green bean casserole. And a dessert. Definitely bring a dessert.
I don’t think you need to participate in Black Friday shopping unless you’re specifically asked to do so. If you’re not spending the entire long weekend with his family, it’d be kind of odd for you to go out on an excursion like that that usually separates the family. If there’s an option for you to run out and meet up with mom, grandma and sister for a couple of hours, by all means, go for it. But, you’re asking someone who is strictly an online shopper and has no use for a somewhat-discounted Furby or 72” inch television.
Now, what should you wear? Girl, dress for the weather. And don’t show a lot of skin. You aren’t dressing for a fun night out with your man, you’re hanging with his family. I would say: maybe dress like you’re going to a really, really, really casual funeral. Just be fully covered.
Here are a few fun options:
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